This is it, it’s my last month of being able to say I’m in my 20’s, I’ll have to upgrade from some tick-box categories to ensure I tell the truth about my age, no longer will I be able to put a mark in the box next to ‘aged between 20-29’, I’ll have to keep scrolling to the next one down. I’ll also be officially classed as old by people who are still at school and as I’m still single, I’ll wonder if I’m about to be shelved. However they say 30 is the new 20 so that’s what I’m holding on to. The last few years of my 20’s have brought a new found confidence, not only to my personal life, but also my work life. Yes growing old isn’t nice to think about, but it’s also exciting. Think of all the knowledge you’ve built up over the years and how you can use this in retaliation to anything that anyone says to you.
Relationship wise I’ve learnt that you can’t judge a book by its cover and even if you don’t you still can’t be 100% sure he won’t screw you over. But that’s life, you live and learn and you know the saying, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and this couldn’t hold more true. When life’s events throw you a curveball, allow yourself to wallow in self-pity for a bit, you need to deal with the emotions you’re feeling, however painful they are. The only way to get over these situations are to face your feelings head on – cry until it hurts, talk about it until your voice disappears and your friends are bored of hearing about it, have days in bed just watching TV and have some time to eat what you want without thinking about what that extra slice of chocolate cake will do to your waistline. The only thing you need to do is make sure you pull yourself off the ground to show your ex exactly what he’s missing. However hard it is to put on a brave face in public, just do it. It’s guaranteed to pay off in the end and you’ll be able to walk away with your head held high while everyone else wonders why your ex was crazy enough to let you go. Always believe in yourself and don’t let anyone doubt you.
Career wise I’ve learnt to push myself even if I get a few odd looks in the process. Take the lead and show your employer and colleagues exactly what you can do, even if it’s not in your job description. Stay late after work, always be on hand to offer your services in times of need and deal with tough situations in a professional manner, however frustrating it can get.
Family wise I’ve learnt to always put them first. Don’t let boys or work get in the way of family time, it’s moments that you’ll never get back with them and that’s something you’ll regret. Mum’s, dad’s, brothers and sisters can be annoying and argumentative, but those are the times you’ll fondly look back on when you’re older and that’s something you don’t want to miss out on. I’ve found that the basis for everything else working out in your life is to have a strong foundation and family form a great base to build on. If things go wrong in a relationship or times are tough at work, having a strong family behind you can give you the confidence to face up to the challenges and take charge of the situations you need to resolve. Use your family to bounce off and if I know all of this advice by the time I’m nearly 30, imagine how much your parents and grandparents know so always listen to what they have to say.
So here’s to life at 30, I’m mentally prepared to face any challenge that comes my way and that includes accepting more wrinkles around my eyes. Bring it on!